This year at your company party, what kind of impression would you like to make? Would you like to be the remembered as the guy who is smart, pleasurable and delightful? OR the guy about whom people say, “Ummm, hmm… yeah, I think I remember meeting him… maybe”? You’re going to pick the previous, of course, as all of us would. No one wants to be remembered as the boring guy, or not even remembered at all. So before you attend any parties this year, take a little bit of time to think about how you will appear to others during conversation.
Below are some strategies you might use to come to a satisfying conclusion in your own stories:
- Pay attention to your body language.
Yes, what you say is important. But your body language is even more significant because people “READ” it before you say a single word. Make sure to smile. Sit or stand up straight, and do not cross your arms in front of you, as this is interpreted as a suspicious posture. As you are talking with people, try to make eye contact in a calm manner. What I mean by this is, positively make eye contact with the person to whom you are speaking, but try not to make this person feel as if you are staring or scrutinizing. When you break eye contact, try to do it slowly, without darting your eyes. This helps people to sense at ease during a conversation.
- Dress nicely!
We all tend to typecast. It’s not something that we like to confess to, but every single one of us does it at some point whether we mean to or not. It is an old survival sense, really, to look at a person and right away judge whether or not he or she will be a risk to us. So, it is very significant to recognize that people will be making a split second judgment based on your look whether they mean to or not. Because of this, you should take the time to make sure you look your best. Dress up your look for the holidays by wearing a dark colored velvet sports coat. Or if you classically wear contact lenses, wear a fashionable pair of glasses instead. Experiment with unlike tie knots so that you can wear one that differs from your normal work wear. Even just a small change in your appearance can make an interesting focal point.
- Don’t over-think!
Okay, I know this one is a little bit easier said than done. But try not to over-think what you will say and how you will act. If you are wrapped up in your own thoughts inside your head, you are likely to not appear stress-free. So take a deep breath and smile, and try to just relax.
- Imagine that you are meeting a friend.
When meeting a new person for the first time, try to imagine that you are talking with a friend. This will automatically make you feel more comfortable, and you will find that talk comes more easily to you. When talking with a person for the first time, you may feel like you are stressed to think of suitable topics.
Overall, what creates the most lasting impression is an individual who looks sharp and takes a genuine interest in what others have to say. So make sure that you listen as much as you talk, and dress your best to make a good impression.
Between the first impression and the last impression, there are many interactions that may take place. I’m not minimizing the importance of those as your conversation represents you and makes you memorable. After all, what you speak is more crucial than how much you speak!